Narcissism

Dealing with narcissists can be a challenging and emotionally draining experience,

especially for Christians who are called to love, forgive, and seek peace. A Christian

perspective, rooted in biblical principles, provides valuable guidance on handling

narcissistic individuals while maintaining spiritual and emotional well-being.

Understanding Narcissism Through a Biblical Lens

Narcissism is characterized by excessive self-focus, a lack of empathy, manipulation,

and a desire for control. While the Bible does not specifically mention narcissism as a

psychological term, it does warn about self-centered behavior. The Apostle Paul

describes such individuals in 2 Timothy 3:2-5, saying, "People will be lovers of

themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, disobedient to their parents,

ungrateful, unholy, without love, unforgiving, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not

lovers of the good, treacherous, rash, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of

God—having a form of godliness but denying its power. Have nothing to do with such

people."

This passage reminds believers that while we should love and pray for others, we must

also recognize toxic behaviors and set boundaries.

Responding to Narcissists in a Christlike Manner

Our response to narcissistic individuals should reflect Christ’s example of love, truth,

and discernment. Here are some key principles:

1. Pray for Wisdom and Discernment

The Bible encourages believers to seek God’s wisdom when dealing with difficult

people. James 1:5 says, "If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who

gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you." Ask God

for guidance on how to navigate relationships with narcissistic individuals while

staying emotionally and spiritually strong.

2. Set Healthy Boundaries

Many narcissists thrive on control and manipulation, making boundaries

essential. Jesus Himself set boundaries, withdrawing from crowds when

necessary (Luke 5:16) and speaking truth boldly to those who acted hypocritically

(Matthew 23). If a narcissistic person is draining your energy or leading you into

sin, it may be necessary to create space for your own well-being.

3. Practice Forgiveness but Not Enabling

Forgiveness is a core Christian value, but it does not mean allowing continuous

harm. Colossians 3:13 urges believers to forgive, but Proverbs 22:24-25 also

warns against keeping close company with those who exhibit harmful behaviors.

Forgive from the heart, but do not feel guilty for protecting yourself from toxic

influences.

4. Rely on God’s Justice

Many narcissists refuse to acknowledge their wrongdoing, leading to frustration

for those who seek fairness. However, Romans 12:19 reminds us, "Do not take

revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: 'It is

mine to avenge; I will repay,' says the Lord." Trust in God’s justice and avoid

getting entangled in endless conflicts with someone who refuses to change.

5. Seek Support from the Church Community

Seventh-day Adventists emphasize the importance of Christian fellowship. If you

are struggling in a relationship with a narcissist, seek counsel from a trusted

pastor, elder, or Christian counselor. Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 reminds us that "Two

are better than one... If either of them falls down, one can help the other up." You

don’t have to deal with this alone.

6. Keep Your Focus on Christ

Ultimately, dealing with a narcissist can be spiritually exhausting. Maintain your

relationship with Christ through prayer, Bible study, and worship. Isaiah

26:3 promises, "You will keep in perfect peace those whose minds are steadfast,

because they trust in you." Keep your eyes on Jesus, and He will provide the

strength to navigate these difficult relationships.

Conclusion

As Christians, we are called to reflect Christ’s love, but we are not expected to endure

toxic relationships that harm our well-being. Through prayer, boundaries, forgiveness,

and trust in God, we can navigate relationships with narcissists in a way that honors our

faith and preserves our spiritual health. Seek God’s wisdom, lean on the support of your

church family, and remember that your identity and peace are found in Christ alone.